Growing up, I always felt like the “biggest” girl in my friend group. I avoided pool parties, and had way top much anxiety on lake weekends or beach days. I still remember a comment one of the guys in my friend group made about my legs (insert eye roll emoji).
Working through that was ROUGH (and it still can be rough some days). But after I realized that fitness and health are way more than how you look, the game changed. Instead of having goals of looking a certain way, I developed goals that involved faster sprints or more push-ups. For me, fitness and living a healthy life style is more about how it makes me feel. When I crush a tough workout, I feel like a badass. When I eat a healthy dinner, I feel great inside knowing that I’m nourishing my body. Now don’t get me wrong, I can down a pint of ice cream EASILY, I literally have a bottomless pit for a stomach. But through all the binge eating and self-sabotage and all the “okay today is the day I’ll start”, I’ve learned a lot about the concepts of patience and time. Things don’t happen overnight, our health and fitness is not a place where we can rush, save that energy running late to work with an iced coffee in hand. We have our whole lives ahead of us, it’s no use to stress yourself just to look good for one day at the pool.
I’ve worked on developing new thoughts when I look in a mirror. And it took a long time to break some of these habits, but thinking of all the positive things I love about my body has changed everything. For example, now when I catch myself in the mirror, I throw a compliment my way, rather than criticizing. Not liking what I saw in the mirror used to ruin my day, and yes there are things we can do to change that physically, but it’s all mental. Changing your mindset changes your LIFEEE. You’re a boss b*tch that can do whatever you want, remember that next time you catch yourself staring.
Also, we all have comments others have made about our bodies that stay ingrained in our brains. The fact that I still remember something some boy said to me in high school proves my point. Oh and let’s not forget the college comments, but actually let’s. I’ve worked on not letting other people’s opinions dictate my self-worth by reminding myself of the phrase, “No one is you, and that is your power”. Saying that once alone in my room didn’t magically fix everything. But it was the first step. There is no reason to let others opinion’s hold you back. You know what you need to do to get the life you want, so go out there and get it. Do not let anyone stand in your way.
P.S. Watch what you say! You never know what comment could stick in someone’s mind for longer than it should. I guess bottom line is, be a nice person. Trust me, the universe will thank you.