Trying to get my family together for a FaceTime is like herding sheep, but sheep I really love. Being alone in New York made me realize how truly blessed I am to have my family. Because we’re all over the country right now, FaceTime is going to be the way we’re celebrating this year.
I honestly wasn’t planning on writing today, but felt inspired when I woke up to give my mom a little shout-out. While drinking my second coffee this morning, I sat and started thinking about everything she’s done for me. She has given me the tools I need to be able to do everything myself, and that is what I’m extremely grateful for. From holding my hair back while I puke to finding me an apartment, she’s been there for it all. But also, she hasn’t. She taught me how to handle things on my own, and her way of not being there in certain times has definitely helped me mature over the years. If she was there at my call for every little thing I needed, or was too scared to handle on my own, I wouldn’t be who I am today. She gives me the tools I need for everything in life, but makes sure that it’s up to me to use those tools to get my sh*t done. She doesn’t listen to my excuses, she doesn’t coddle me when I don’t deserve it. Okay now I’m realizing that this may sound a bit harsh- ha, but I wouldn’t trade that kind of real love for the world.
If she didn’t push me, I wouldn’t have moved to NYC when I was 16. If she didn’t teach me how to save I wouldn’t have enough for a security deposit on my apartment. I might not know how to cook, but I FOR SURE know how to clean. Her selflessness inspires me to donate to nonprofits, and her hands-on approach to problems she’s passionate about inspires me to get involved in my community.
Growing up, a lot of my friends had a “best friend” relationship with their moms. To be honest, I never felt like I had that with my mom, and she’ll say the same thing. But, I do feel some sort of weird pressure to have this relationship with my mom. Except, it just isn’t us. There’s no rule book that defines the relationship you’re supposed to have with your mom. It’s important to remember that what works for you guys is right. Looking back, I’m thankful she wasn’t my best friend. Her tough love made my maturity sky rocket a couple years ahead; I learned how to handle myself. I’m not saying that if you have a best friend relationship with your mom you’re doing it wrong, trust me there were some moments when all I wanted was a hug. But I think it’s important that we shouldn’t feel any pressure to have that “expected” relationship with our moms.
Okay now I feel like I’ve made her sound like a scary person, she’s really not, she’s just bada** that loves me. And trust me, any mom that pays for their kid to be a competition dancer REALLY loves them (if you think it’s expensive, double what you’re thinking… and then add little bit more).
I am so grateful for my mom, she has shown me the ropes and given me the tools I need to achieve the life I want, while reminding me that I can do anything I want. Now I’m going to go buy a cupcake to celebrate (yes, I’m eating the cupcake in honor of my mom).
Happy Mother’s Day!