So, it’s January 15th, 2021. We are 15 days into the New Year. Do you still have the energy and excitement you had about your goals on the 1st? It’s so interesting how we plan and strategize how we are going to achieve so many things at the beginning of a year, and then just a few weeks later we fall back into our normal routine.
“Nothing will change if you don’t.”
Woof. It’s really interesting to think about. If we continue in our same routines, our same expectations, and our same lifestyle, while expecting a massive change in our success- it’s not going to happen. I think there are a lot of things that can keep us stuck in the same routine, (habits, mindset, organization, low expectations for oneself) but I think the thing we lack the most is confidence.
Most of us have big dreams, but are scared to act on them. Or, scared to start them because we fear failure or worry about the judgment we may get from others. So how can we rid that fear and move forward confidently? First, if what you want/what you are doing feels right, makes you feel like you’re aligned with your future self, and brings you joy, you should be doing it. You are 100% on the right path, no matter what others may think. One of the reasons I felt so motivated to create a blog is because I told myself: “Start now, keep going, and think about where it could be in 5 years.” The problem is that we are too scared to start. You don’t have to be perfect, you just have to start. If you give up, that’s when you fail. If you never give up, it’s impossible to fail. We all have so many amazing ideas, but feel as if we aren’t ready to act on them, the timing isn’t right, or we don’t have the tools we need. There are tons of excuses. But fear of judgment from others cannot be one.
I think social media plays a big part in the level of confidence we have going after our goals. We look at people’s highlight reels all day, and then feel like we’re not enough because we haven’t achieved what they have. We want to post and advertise our ideas, but are too scared to not receive enough likes or comments to make our ideas worthy. We are subconsciously looking for others’ approval on everything we do. A big part of confidently going after your goals is to be able to put it into the universe. You should be excited to tell your friends what you want to achieve, and be so confident in yourself that these dreams can come true. Post what you what, when you want, however you look, and just start.
Confidence can get a bad rap sometimes. Confidence is not believing that you are the best in the room. Confidence is believing in yourself. You are the best version of you. When you’re not confident in yourself, you’re not presenting your best self to the world. It’s not “New Year, New Me”, it’s us taking actionable, bold, steps that will get us closer to our truest selves. Each year we discover new things that make us happy and add those in our lives. We examine what’s not making us happy, and figure out how to move away from it. You have to go after what you want with no fear, because you deserve it.
When I first launched my Self- Care Challenge, I was worried about what others would think, and if it was even worth it. I have had months where 15 people signed up, and months where 0 people signed up. It doesn’t bother me, because I’m proud of myself for launching it. I’m proud of the work that I am doing to help people realize how important self- love is for overall happiness. It also makes me so happy! Most of the time, these successful people/businesses didn’t happen overnight. There is a lot of work that goes on behind the scenes. We miss seeing the work and the struggle because not many people post that on social media. No matter what you do, people will say something. I used to get made fun of for working hard. FOR WORKING HARD. Other people’s comments reflect something that they are insecure about. Confidence is not apologizing for who you are, and going after what you truly want in life with nothing holding you back. So let’s go get these dreams people!!